My way of dealing with this is: if I don't get what I call a 'full body yes' then it is a 'no'. Sometimes that can be hard. But just lately, I was invited on holiday with a good girlfriend. It seemed on paper to be a brilliant idea. But I just wasn't getting that full body yes. So I said No.
She contacted me a couple of days later to say thank you - my firm boundaries had given her permission to reflect, and realise that she really needed time on her own, not with someone. So by taking care of myself in this way, she was also able to take care of herself :)
Great tips for saying No!
My way of dealing with this is: if I don't get what I call a 'full body yes' then it is a 'no'. Sometimes that can be hard. But just lately, I was invited on holiday with a good girlfriend. It seemed on paper to be a brilliant idea. But I just wasn't getting that full body yes. So I said No.
She contacted me a couple of days later to say thank you - my firm boundaries had given her permission to reflect, and realise that she really needed time on her own, not with someone. So by taking care of myself in this way, she was also able to take care of herself :)
That sounds excellent; sometimes our body is much clearer on what we should do. Sounds like a win-win for you and your friend :)